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  1. Different Charity please

    Good intentions sometimes do not have good results. If no one tries to tell those with good intentions, then those results don't change. I can't force anyone to change who they donate to, but I can try to educate them as to why their good intentions might not be having the good results they believe them to have. The fact that people say they are 'sorry to hear' someone is autistic really says a lot about perceptions of autism, and that's really bad for autistics. People with disabilities do not want pity. They want acceptance.
  2. Different Charity please

    I understand that they may have done things to help you as a carer, that is the angle they tend to approach, so they are very appealing to parents and carers of people with autism, particularly those with relatively severe comorbid conditions. I realise many such people believe supporting Autism Speaks is positive because of the few good things they have done. But they do these things at great expense to most autistic individuals. Please consider the ramifications of how they conduct themselves to achieve these things, and not just whether the few things they have done have benefited you as a carer. Though they do have some good literature, they were also responsible for the spread of known disproven literature (and specifically, the Wakefield stuff) for years. And continued massive investment in related research as well which even lead to a senior executive resigning. Details on wikipedia. Clearly no one can stop people from donating to such an organisation. I just want to raise the point that their objectives and methods cause significant harm to autistic adults, and that your child will one day be an adult, and they may not be all that different from me, or the many other autistic adults out there. I would suggest that the negatives they cause as a result of their methods, are not something you'd enjoy seeing them unhappy at in 20 years time. And if I had any better way to fully explain just how negative some of these effects are that parents and carers frequently are not aware of, I would love to be able to do so. Not saying they never do any good, they certainly have done many things to help carers. The issue is they've done it at the expense of the autistic individuals, and now because of the massive size and public visibility of autism speaks, autistics have no voice, because Autism Speaks drowns them out so completely. Did you read the links I provided in an earlier post? Do they not convey why autistic adults would feel this way? Is there anything else I can do to help illustrate this issue to you? Autism Speaks aims to help carers care, but fails to help autistics gain any independence themselves. And like most other people, we want to be able to live our lives independently and speak about our needs. This is why I ask so strongly that the visibility granted from businesses supporting autistic causes please be directed to self-advocacy organisations. Because no one understands autistics as well as other autistics.
  3. Different Charity please

    While I would generally agree, in this specific instance, due to the methods used by Autism Speaks, much of the awareness has been very negative. Fortunately there are some other forces out there providing awareness too, but that ad I linked in an earlier post is pretty indicative of the nature of 'awareness' Autism Speaks tend to aim for. Unfortunately I can't see that particular kind being helpful at all. It also unfortunately leads to a double bind situation for many of us on the spectrum, who because of the extreme and unpleasant depictions often get dismissed by others as not being autistic enough because we CAN speak for ourselves. So either we can't speak and must defer to others, or we are dismissed as being too functional and thus not really autistic. This is one of the arguments often used to explain why an organisation like Autism Speaks have no autistics on the board. As you did mention from the show Parenthood, I don't think that was negative, and that sort of thing is okay with me. ;) There are some good and neutral depictions out there, and I would love to see those supported more. This is one of my biggest reasons for so strongly voicing my objection to Autism Speaks. Because of their size and visibility, they soak up the vast majority of well intentioned donations to help autistics. Then they produce all the negative depictions that harm us. :( Sorry for the ranting, but seeing donations of good intentions actually work against those intentions really upsets me.
  4. Different Charity please

    There are some portrayals that do help to raise awareness of autism and in many ways that's helpful. Unfortunately, a lot of the awareness doesn't lead to acceptance, and this is why many autistic self-advocacy groups call for autistic acceptance, and not awareness. This is another issue many raise with the model of 'awareness' promoted by Autism Speaks, but I suspect that point would be far too long and complicated for either of us, and as a more 'political' issue is less important than the serious concerns already raised. There is unfortunately a big difference between being aware that autistics exist, and accepting that they are just people that work a bit differently. I'd love to see more positive (or even neutral) representations of autism, as they are unfortunately still quite rare. :(
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    I was just trying to convey that there are many other sources, not that I don't have proof. There are many more sources out there if you wished to look as well, and the autistic organisations run by autistics are probably the best sources, they likely even communicate it better than I do. :P I provided a few sources for those specific things, as events that I specifically remembered well. And I put quite a number of links to other sources throughout my previous response, I hope those illustrate the perspective a little better.
  6. Different Charity please

    The largest 'community' would probably be the online community Wrong Planet. (Which is an allusion to the metaphor that autistics major issue is the society we live in, that if we lived on a planet where everyone was autistic then most of our issues wouldn't occur. So we live on the 'Wrong Planet') There was an April Fools article on there too, so make sure to check the date on the posts. :tongue: The fact Autism Speaks was the subject of such an article, and the content and strong wording of it, should say something about the community attitude to them as well. There are some great autistic organisations by autistics, that do have our interests at heart. The biggest one is probably ASAN (Autistic Self Advocacy Network) They even have a flier specifically addressing Autism Speaks! I'm sure you could find ample information about these things, that Autism Speaks have done: Advocated for MMR/Vaccine links to autism that were completely fraudulent. They have even supported that researcher after he was shown to be a fraud. Links here, and here. Have used offensive public campaigns to raise money. Like this one, video here. I don't recall ever seeing such demonisation being acceptable elsewhere. :( Consistently promote autism as a disease, even wikipedia lists it. Which also leads to their rejection of Neurodiversity approaches to autism. Try to represent autism as an epidemic to scare people. Despite the fact there's ample reason to suggest that it is diagnosis becoming more accurate. I won't even try to outline every single issue there is with Autism Speaks. I am just trying to make people aware that they are not a positive force for autistics, and if you want to help autistics then please donate your money to another organisation.
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    While some aspects of the legislation they help pass can be positive (such as better or guaranteed insurance coverage, etc) there are many negatives to what they promote as well. When they have been confronted about such issues by autistics, they are dismissed and ignored. If an organisation fighting racism was staffed exclusively by white people, and ignored the cries of people that suffer racism, people would question the integrity of that organisation. If an organisation fighting for disability rights was staffed exclusively by able-bodied people, and they ignored the opinions of those with disabilities, there would be serious questions asked. If an organisation fighting sexism was staffed exclusively by men, and ignored the vocal outrage from women over their policies, people would not consider them a positive contributor. Autism Speaks does not represent autistics, and has actively made things worse for many, and has contributed to many of the myths and misconceptions about autism. So while there may have been a few positives from some of the legislation, they are overwhelmingly a source of pain and insult to the autistic community as a whole. :(
  8. I recently upgraded from an old version, where we used unapprove as the means to hide posts but leave them in context (or soft-delete as many call it). The hide functionality is absolutely perfect for how we use the forums, but the thousands of 'unapproved' posts all over the forum were a pain. The upgrader should possibly ask "do you want to convert unapproved posts to hidden posts?" I ended up doing it with a few queries directly in the db - doing each of them via mod panel would have been way too much.
  9. Different Charity please

    I noticed today that Invision are supporting Autism Speaks - I would ask that you please choose another charity, Autism Speaks are widely despised by the autistic community because they do not have our interests in mind. There are many many places online that will detail the criticism of Autism Speaks in great detail. Here is one letter someone to another organisation supporting Autism Speaks earlier this year, which may interest you: Responding to Autism Speaks From the letter: They consistently work against the interests of autistic adults, and demean and demonise autism as a whole. They outright ignore developments in the science... Even when they come from their own research - such as still promoting the now thoroughly disproven vaccine theory, and the overwhelming evidence that autism is genetic and not typically detrimental in itself. As an autistic adult and a customer, I ask that you please do not support Autism Speaks. They have done nothing but make it harder for the voices of actual autistics to be heard, and have been the driving force between the massively negative and dehumanising view of autism that most of the general public possess. If you would like to help autistics, the autism community, or research to assist those with autism, please donate that money to one of the organisations that actually do help us, and help undo the damage Autism Speaks has been doing to autistics. If you need more information, or would like to get in contact with organisations that could greatly benefit from such support, I am happy to direct you to the right places. Just please, please not Autism Speaks.